Abandoned body
Perhaps this severance of this male and female energy is less obvious than its relationship to the body itself. The bodies associated with transcultural women’s principles have been systematically devalued in favor of the mind, a masculine principle of abstraction and analysis.
We are increasingly living in our own virtual world of creation, and we are proud of the transcendence of unconscious consciousness, the “mere” physical limitations that lie in digital space. However, this embodiment has cost a terrible price. Separated from our bodies, we lose access to the wisdom they have. It is not manufactured from the rightfulness of convenience and the sense of injustice and joy that guides intuition, emotions, felt, ethical choices, and the ability to live life worthy of.
In a hurry to transcend the limits of our bodies, we have forgotten the gift of our bodies. In search of spiritual or intellectual progress, we fundamentally ignored the simple truth that the deepest knowledge is an existence that comes through the senses.
For many survivors of emotional neglect, the body is not a source of wisdom, but a reservoir of pain. When the accumulated sadness of unmet needs is too big to bear consciously, we store it in physical form – pain, paralysis, pain that speaks what we cannot speak.
And in the face of this reservoir of unprocessed emotions, many choose to cut further. We take pride in sedating ourselves with substances, distracting ourselves with endless stimuli, and pushing ourselves forward rather than listening to the message. We ask that we abandon our bodies as surely as we abandoned the Earth, and for the same reasons we feel fearful of facing us.
Exploitation of Earth and Women: The Scars of Our Planet
This imbalance between men and women extends far beyond our personal psychology to our fundamental relationship with the planet. For thousands of years, across diverse cultures, the planet has been understood as an expression of female energy. A great mother, caregiver, and life-lasting person. And, like the principles of human women, the Earth has been systematically devalued, exploited and ignored.
We treated our planets the same way we treated women in ourselves and among others. We moved from one environmental crisis to the next, without moving, without feeling sad about what we lost or responsible for what we did. We prioritize healing of relationships, efficiency over interaction, and technical solutions over conquest of communion. In doing so, we recreate the same pattern of emotional abandonment. Avoid discomfort, bypass the pain, and silence what you feel.
The similarities between treating women and treatment of the earth are impressive. Just as emotional neglect within relationships creates superficial peace and undermines the foundation of trust, our neglected relationship with the planet maintains the illusion of progress, as we erode the very systems that sustain us. Just as learning to cherish our emotional needs become strangers to ourselves, and our culture cannot respect the rhythm and limits of the planet, we have made us foreigners in our own homes. We continue to abandon the ground below us, as we don’t know how to listen, how to feel, how to keep things that hurt exist.
Our relationship with the planet reflects the same patterns of abandonment and exploitation seen in human relationships. We take what we need without reciprocity. Until they are in crisis, we ignore the signs of pain. We prioritize short-term comfort over long-term sustainability. We treat warnings as inconvenient truths rather than important information. We don’t have the right tendency to the injuries we cause, and we will refill and extract without causing any injuries.
Indigenous cultures around the world have long recognized the planet as the creature we are involved in. It’s not the object we use, it’s the subject we’re talking to. These traditions understand that our happiness is closely related to the happiness of our planets, and that what we do to Earth will ultimately do to ourselves. This perspective does not romanticize nature, but it acknowledges the reality of our interdependence.
The Industrial Revolution accelerated the disconnection from the planet and increased the masculine value of control, extraction and domination, while rejecting feminine wisdom of cycles, sustainability and interconnection. We began to see planets as machines rather than organisms, and as collections of resources rather than webs of relations. This mechanical worldview allowed us to paralyze us, to neutralize the signal of pain and perpetuate the harm while pretending to fix it. But too often, they deal with symptoms rather than roots.
Climate change, biodiversity loss, pollution, and resource depletion are not technical issues awaiting technical solutions. They are symptoms of a relationship crisis, a failure in relation to respect, reciprocity, and care. Just as emotional neglect in relationships leads to breakdowns, neglecting our planetary homes has led to a life-threatening ecological collapse.
And, just as our most damaged parts of ourselves are often the most rigid or chaotic, the Earth responds to our negligence, fire, floods, and drought, not passive acceptance, but increasingly unstable expressions. The Earth embodies the capabilities of women’s principles to nurture and destroy them when pushed beyond sustainable limits. She carries our pain, absorbs our toxicity, and receives our neglect until she can’t. The neglect will not disappear. It gets worse, strengthened, and eventually erupts.
Many modern environmental movements recognize this connection between ecological healing and relational healing. They understand that addressing climate change requires not only technological innovation, but fundamental change in consciousness. This shift calls for the regaining feminine values of interdependence, cyclical thinking and emotional intelligence, along with the masculine strengths of focused action, innovation and protection.
To heal your relationship with the Earth, you need the same skills as healing relationships. The courage to face unpleasant truths, the willingness to feel sad about what is lost, the humility to acknowledge the harm that has been inflicted, the commitment to compensate, and the perseverance of rebuilding trust through consistent actions over time. Rather than continuing to move from one crisis to the next patch and escape without integration, it calls for the movement of the group to be pain.
Recoverable Value: The Road to Healing
When a man’s energy communicates through abandonment that someone is not worth the effort, it leaves a much deeper wound than a wound. The message is internalized as follows: Your needs are too many. Your emotions are intense. Your healing is too inconvenient. You are not worth staying, fighting and changing. This rupture strikes the root of value, especially for those whose history is marked by emotional negligence or contradictions.
For healing in the future, bold self-renewal will be necessary. Ask the injured to separate the perceived message from the truth. The inability and disgust of others to exist in the fire of growth are not our values, but our limits. This path requires courage to unleash internalized condemnation and clearly see that connection, emotional being, and the desire for shared transformation was not overly undue. It was sacred.
The task is neither simple nor quick. When someone we love deeply leaves, the default instinct is to search for our flaws. It’s a fatal flaw that must have driven it away. But true healing begins when we name our abandonment of what it is, not as a verdict on our values, but as a mirror revealing the wounds of an older generation that needs attention. Reclaiming our values means accepting supple root strength, not stoicism or oppression. It is the strength of the tree that is unbreakable, bent the power of the person who moves sadness without falling. This is quiet and unwavering, knowing that other people’s departures will not reduce the holiness of our needs.
Softness to maintain an open mind
The most radical act after abandonment is not separation, but softness. Trusting again after being betrayed, staying open when the world trains us to close is an act of mental rebellion. The mind instructs us to protect, strengthen and remain protected. For a while, this is wise. However, over time, this armor will calcify to distance and the scavenging wounds become chronic.
True softness is not simple. It’s not a lack of identification. It’s a choice to continue to believe in authentic connections without bypassing the need for boundaries. One rupture pain is a refusal to determine the future potential. This is the feminine principle of its best expression. It is to remain open and unnecessarily accepting, identifying where one’s kindness meets reciprocity.
This open heartness is not passive. It requires us to continue to love intense courage and invest in existence again after we meet in our absence. It asks us to separate certain things from the universals. Not all people leave, not all stories end in betrayal. It reminds us that emotional immortality may feel safe, but it guarantees deeper pain. Opening is to celebrate the sacred pain of life without closing the door where healing can enter.
Source: BLOG-Ashira Tantra – www.ashiratantra.com
