Beautiful lady,
Can you believe I’ve been married for almost six years? Time really flies and if you’ve been here with me this long, you might even remember our wedding photo. here2020 marks Carter and I’s eighth year together. We’ve learned a lot about ourselves in those eight years, and this blog post is the result of a conversation we had a few years ago.
I’m good at taking notes on my phone, and I recently found a note I wrote a few years ago when our wedding anniversary was coming up. It was a note where I asked Mr. Carter if he had any tips he could share with his viewers when it came to dating. The discussion was so interesting and his insights were really great. When I was single, I wanted some really open and unbiased insights from men, so I thought it would be really great to share here.
Below are Carter’s tips for dating and finding your soul mate.
(Side note: I asked if there were any comments beyond the numbered sentences, and there were very few. 😂😂 So the following paragraphs are my insights and thoughts.
1. Don’t be afraid to jump into the friend zone.
This is a great first step and tip. I think as women we are quick to friend zone people, usually because they don’t fit the picture we have in our heads. I am 100% serious when I say that sometimes what we want and what God feels is best for us are two completely different things. I know the men I chose before I met Mr. Carter were good, but they just weren’t the right fit for me.
If I had never stepped out and tried something new, I would never have met my husband. Besides, what’s wrong with hanging out with friends? You want someone who’s fun, caring, and supportive like your friends. Wouldn’t you want that in your spouse?
2. Don’t speculate or act hastily.
Take your time to get to know the person. I think we tend to make quick assumptions based on past experiences, or conversely, get too excited when we meet someone we’re interested in and rush things. The key is to take it slow. Get to know the person from the heart and have fun together in the process.
3. Know what you’re looking for, but don’t overthink it.
Further considerations: No one is perfect, so ask yourself, “Do they complement you?”
I think one of the things that often happens in dating is the false expectation of perfection. No one is perfect. I remember having a discussion with a former coworker a few years ago. She was dating a guy who was really bringing a lot of negative things into her life. I told her that no one is perfect, but that you can tell a lot about a person by their personality.
So what does that mean? Mr. Carter makes mistakes. I make mistakes. But we are really good people. We are kind, loving, caring, and fundamentally good people. Someone who is not a good person will lie, cheat, and make you feel inferior. That’s not the type of person you want. So know what you want, but make sure that person complements you and is the right person for you.
What did you think of Carter’s advice? What advice would you give to someone about dating?
May God bless you.
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