Jordan Sondler Brooklyn-based author and illustrator. Cool Pet Portraits Comics that depict important moments in life, e.g. Asserting Yourself or Losing a parentWhen asked about her ideal outfit, she said, “Something that’s easy and comfortable, but also makes a statement. And no zippers.” Here, Jordan shares her five styles…
Dress: Ray, resembleclutch: A gentle thrillsneakers: New BalanceEarrings: Laura Lombardi.
“I get my love of clothes from my mom. When we were growing up, she was always dressing my sisters and me in bows, swirly dresses, patterned denim and matching outfits. It was very ’90s Northeastern and I still love wearing them today.”
“I’ve been overweight since I was 15, and I went through periods of not dressing well in my teens and early adulthood. I remember my mom taking me to Lane Bryant, which I thought was an old man’s store, and I was embarrassed. I also had a size 11 and had to shop at Nordstrom for loafers, which was so embarrassing. In college, I bought stuff second-hand that was either too big or too small. I basically just had to wear demure clothes that fit me.”
dress: RayBarrette: Chunk, resemble.
“I started developing my own style seven years ago. Ray — appeared and provided a comprehensive size. I am Wray Aidy Bryant“, vocalized that he loves the brand’s fun clothes. As a loyal customer, I really hope they do well. Today, many companies are back to offering only limited sizes, and that’s scary.”
Barrette: Chunk, resembleEarrings: “My dad gave these diamond stud earrings to my mom. They were one of the last things he gave me.” Lipstick: Chanel In Immobile.
“For hairstyles, anything that can be done in 60 seconds is fine. I love a high ponytail held in place with a clip or scrunchie. For makeup, lipstick And eyebrow pencil. I used to wear more, but quarantine has forced me to stop doing things I don’t like. I stopped wearing high heels, I stopped wearing makeup, I stopped wearing bike shorts.”
Bodysuits: Samantha Preetjeans: Elokeyheel: Paloma Wool.
“Seven years ago, I was in a relationship with a guy and by that time I was at the smallest size of my adult life. At the time I felt like the world expected me to have the body I wanted, so I actively tried to lose weight. After we broke up, I realized how much I hated my body. That was the catalyst for me to find a way to come to terms with my body and not let it control me. I started making overweight friends at the events I hosted, and my life changed dramatically. Emma Zack; following overweight influencers. Jessica Torres, Mariel Elizabeth Terhartand Virgil Tovar;reading books written by fat people, e.g. Body Talk.”
top: Belize“My friend Emma’s vintage shop carries plus sizes.” Jeans: Raysneakers: New BalanceBag: Vintage Fendi Costume Gifts.
“I remember being at lunch with someone I didn’t know well and he called himself ‘fat’ and then he called me ‘fat’. It was quite shocking because up until that moment I’d always felt like the word ‘fat’ was used as an attack against me, but he meant it in a neutral way. You have the right to be fat “It released a lot of emotions. I’m the bigger person I’ve ever been, and the way I feel about myself is worlds apart.”
bandana: A gentle thrill.
“This is Ramona, a child I rescued seven years ago. She’s just like me, so stubborn! So it’s my curse to have to raise her. She does the same things I do, like stamping her heels when she’s walking in a direction she doesn’t want to go. Every time I get mad at her, I feel like I’m mad at myself. But I love her. She’s… live “If someone stops me on the street, I cry. If I go outside and there are no people or dogs around, I cry.”
dress: Osei Duro. socks: Girlfriend Collective. shoes: Dr. Martens. Bags: Susan AlexandraDog Bandanas: A gentle thrill.Leash: Friendly.
“I started putting ‘happy and fat’ on my dating profile and no longer worried that someone wouldn’t be able to guess my body type from my profile and would think I was deceiving them into asking me out. I am good-looking, funny, successful and interesting. I no longer have to worry that potential daters will be confused about who they’ll be dating. And I date a lot!”
dress: Osei Duro. socks: Girlfriend Collective. shoes: Dr. Martens. Bags: Susan AlexandraDog Bandanas: A gentle thrill.Leash: Friendly.
“I lost my father to alcoholism when I was 15, and during the pandemic, my friends Anna Toonke, Brigitte BadoreAnd I was exploring the grief I felt for my father. And then finally I thought, “Let’s all get together and talk about this.” And that’s what we Dead Parents Cluban online group full of people I’d never met before. People who’d lost parents to addiction, people who’d been caregivers for parents, people whose parents had been murdered. We Meet online Once a month we meet to discuss the things that come with losing a parent, like how to deal with estranged family members, how to do death anniversary ceremonies, etc. I never thought I’d like grief groups, but it changed me. I’m so glad there are more resources like the Instagram account. Option B Anderson Cooper’s Podcast It’s all there “For people who have lost their parents and want to feel a connection.”
Many thanks, Jordan — We worship you.
PS Many more are sharing their outfits for the week, including a mother of five who’s mastered the art of layering and an artist who loves colorful tights.
(Photo credit: Yumi Matsuo For the Cup of Joe.
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