what is the purpose of my life?
That’s a question that almost every human being has. Whether asked directly or buried beneath all the other important questions, here are the questions: Am I in the right career? Is this the right relationship? Is this the life I should live?
We all know when we are out of alignment.
For some people, this can manifest as job dissatisfaction. For others, external changes do not seem to resolve, and restlessness is felt. A life that looks right on paper but isn’t in reality feel right.
When goals are not being achieved, there is a feeling of being subtly out of sync.
Sometimes it feels like something clicks and the question is finally answered. But after a while, it comes back in a slightly different form.
In most cases, the assumption is that the answer has not yet been found. Found.
That there is still something missing, something that needs to be identified, elucidated, discovered…
…and with enough effort, exploration, or the right choices, it will eventually be revealed for what it is.
And the exploration continues, becoming more sophisticated, more intentional, more refined.
However, lack of effort is rarely the problem. It’s a misunderstanding of where to look and why.
Although each story is different, the struggle for purpose follows a common underlying pattern.
After working with thousands of students over the past 10 years at Astro Butterfly School, we’ve identified three main reasons why people struggle to make ends meet.
Reason #1: Looking for purpose in the wrong place
When most people ask, “What is my purpose?” – They are connect it to their behavior – Gather what you need achieveand career, Occupationor performance.
Purpose is translated into something external, as a path that can be chosen.
So the question becomes: which one Is the path correct?
And from there, we start looking around. Who is successful? Who seems fulfilled? What paths do you think would work? What pays best? Who is having the best holidays on Instagram and what are they doing?
“They seem to know what they’re doing. I’ll give it a try.”
The vicious cycle is that if someone isn’t successful by the world’s standards, then… another It shows that they haven’t found their purpose yet and need to do so. I’ll keep looking.
If they feel unfulfilled in their career, or have a vague sense that there is something more “out there”, this is also “evidence” that they are not satisfied with their career. truth A purpose awaits them… somewhere else.
And paradoxically, the same role models, people who appear to be highly successful by external standards, often feel like they are not living their purpose. But that’s reason number three.
In astrology, when someone wants to understand their purpose and direction, they usually instinctively look into their personality. Chuten.
Midheaven is the highest point in the chart and is associated with calling, visibility, and the direction we are headed. So that’s where you need to look for purpose…right?
Wrong.
Purpose and individuality – becoming your true self
Carl Jung understood this. He believed that the deeper challenge of human life is not achievement, adaptation, or finding the right role, but becoming one’s true self.
he called it Individualization And he was clear that this process begins from within, not from outside.
Your birth chart does not begin in the Midheaven. That is why we should not look for purpose in a place that reflects the culmination of a process rather than its origin.
Searching for purpose there is like trying to read the final chapter of a story that has yet to be lived.
astrology can It can be very helpful here, but only if used in the right way.
Jung himself used and studied astrological charts in his work and found that astrology revealed dimensions of the psyche that were inaccessible by other means.
Astrology does things that no other system can manage at all. It connects different parts of our psyche in a coherent way and helps us understand where to lookand give structure Otherwise, it would remain a fragment of meaning.
Confusing purpose, career, and external direction
The problem with purpose is not a lack of choice or a lack of effort, but the externalization of processes that can only unfold internally.
When we look outside for the “right” career or next opportunity, we end up handing the wheel to the wrong driver.
At best, it leads to a life and career that looks right… but doesn’t feel right.
At worst, it becomes paralyzing. Because while one part of us tries to convince ourselves that this is the way to go, another part (the more honest, more connected part) knows it’s not.
And when these parts conflict, both the inside (the way you feel) and the outside (the way you look) begin to suffer.
Confusing purpose with career and external orientation is one of three core patterns we identified Among people struggling to achieve their goals.
of Others 2 Let’s dig deeper and delve into the psychology of why we remain obsessed with the search itself, and why even those who have built successful lives feel fundamentally out of step with what they’ve built.
[WEBINAR] 3 reasons why people struggle to achieve their goals
If you are interested in this topic, join Caro for a free live webinar on Wednesday, April 8, 2026. Caro explores all three patterns in detail with concrete examples.
“Three reasons why people have trouble achieving their goals” – Wednesday, April 8, 2026 Noon ET/5pm GMT
In this 60-minute call, we’ll cover:
- Why is purpose searched? wrong place
- why some people stay in search without landing
- Why do others build successful lives – but I don’t think it’s theirs
- .. and How astrology and archetypes work Helps you recognize these patterns and start addressing them differently
This webinar is also an introduction to our upcoming live program, Purpose + Service – An 8-week journey through the complete framework. Details will be shared at the end of the call.
To participate on April 8th, RSVP by 11am ET.
An email reminder with the Zoom link will be sent to all registrants 1 hour and 5 minutes before the call.
Source: Astro Butterfly – astrobutterfly.com
