Is Love Confusing – KumariDevi

Self-love has dynamics and emotional complexities that can be difficult to distinguish if you don’t know what love really is. Self-love often comes with powerful and sometimes contradictory emotions, such as joy, vulnerability, jealousy, and fear. Developing healthy self-love is essential to having healthy relationships.

Doubting self-love means having doubts or insecurities about your own worth, your sense of value and your ability to love yourself. It involves a lack of confidence in accepting and cherishing yourself and can manifest in different ways, such as:

1. Negative self-talkThey frequently criticize themselves or focus on perceived shortcomings or mistakes.
2. low self-esteem: Feeling worthless, inadequate, or not good enough compared to others.
3. Difficulty accepting compliments: Feeling uncomfortable or incredulous when receiving positive feedback.
4. Self-Abandonment: Neglecting your own needs, desires, and happiness.
5. perfectionismSetting unrealistically high standards and then becoming overly critical when they are not met.
6. Fear of failureAvoiding challenges and new experiences because you don’t believe in your abilities.
7. Reliance on external validation: You depend too heavily on the approval and opinions of others to feel good about yourself.

Confusion and doubt can come from experiences, social pressures, or internalized negative beliefs. Overcoming self-doubt typically involves building self-awareness, practicing self-compassion, and challenging negative thought patterns to create a healthier, more positive relationship with yourself.

Self-love can be confusing in many ways due to misconceptions. It is commonly thought that self-love means always feeling good about yourself or having perfect self-esteem. In reality, self-love is about accepting yourself with all your flaws and being kind to yourself even when times are difficult.

Self-love is not just about pampering yourself with material things and luxurious activities. While these are aspects of self-care, self-love also includes deeper practices like setting boundaries, self-reflection, and personal growth. Relying on the approval or praise of others is sometimes mistaken for self-love. True self-love comes from within and is not dependent on external approval.