How to Write a Sex Scene

My Friend Erika Veurink I just wrote it Romance novel (!), and Thursday I’ll talk to her on the stage of Strandif you’re free and want to hang out with us. My most burning question for her is…

…Do you really like writing sex scenes? How do you shruggle the restraint and actually explain the scene in detail? How do you portray your readers while you know your parents are among them?

“I think you should have thought it was a bit difficult about the inevitable writing of a sex scene before signing up to write a romance novel,” Erica told me. “I assumed that ‘this act’ occurred as a spontaneous burn. This is like the 650 words on the page as infused with divine inspiration.

Here’s how she did it in her own words:

1. The scene you are writing will remove yourself the notion that anyone you have ever encountered will be read. In fact, let’s assume that this scene is doomed to a dusty box under your bed. You will not see the light of day. It’s a good place to start.

2. Light a candle. Expensive candles. Something like candles living on a pale pink boat that you save for dinner parties and other adult efforts. This is an exact use case.

3. Prepare for your inner critic, who is nothing more than a sex scene written on. Avoiding your subconscious, he will provide you with heartless memories of general notes with his former high school boyfriend about not being able to perform any task in front of you. Look at him kindly.

4. Assemble the causes of external courage. I opt for dark chocolate chips, but this may be when I go to the Full Tilt Hemingway with a cute jam jar that bubbles in one or two whiskeys, or a crisp white.

5. Be comforted by the books you have collected – Honey and spices, You made the fool of death with your beauty, First time caller – Symbolic towers around that writing space. Others wrote sex scenes and lived to tell stories.

6. I need a poemand a lot of it. Because no one is more horny than a poet.

7. Find words and lots of unanticipated playlists (Sade and Prince). Play it in as soft volume as possible to drown out the sound of the crying baby of your neighbor or the oil that is boiling in the kitchen while your husband is cooking dinner.

8. You need to write a very silly first draft. The first dive of the head. Don’t look up until the scene is approaching. Reward yourself with the aforementioned snack.

9. This is when you remember how you felt when you heard him scream your name during a summer storm at Bowery. Now is the moment to follow the steps at your fingertips across the knuckle under the open Vermont sky. Settling in the memory of splitting the martini on your couch, his lips dragging it down your neck, whispering “all mine.” Every moment of electrical needs and physical hunger has led you to this.

10. And once that’s done, promise yourself that as long as you’re alive you won’t have to write another sex scene.

Although I never let her get away from the question, I asked Erica how she understood the words used on her body parts. “Thankfully, my editor was a very resourceful,” she told me. “Early, ‘How do you talk about penis?’ They say you don’t have a D- or C- option for you.

thank you, Erika. Find her romance novel hereand Join us on a Thursday nightif you’re free. See you!

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(Erica’s photo) Christine Hanas part of her house tour. )