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A long distance relationship requires a lot of things. If you live in another city, you need intention to stay connected, especially in the days between visits. My boyfriend lives in San Francisco and I live in Portland. I’m lucky enough to see them a few times a month, but it still takes a lot of time if we live our daily lives in different places.
Over time, we learned that being far and near doesn’t mean doing anything elaborate. It’s about finding simple ways to keep each other alive each day.
A simple voice memo while walking home. A shared playlist that keeps evolving. Plan your next visit before your current visit ends. These small habits make distance feel manageable and remind you that even though you’re apart, you’re still building a life together.
Long distance relationship ideas that actually help you stay connected
Every relationship looks different, but the goal is the same. It’s about finding ways to feel present in each other’s lives even when you’re apart. Some are romantic, some are practical, and some are just fun. The best ones become little rituals that you come back to again and again. It’s a habit that will make your time between visits a little easier.
The truth is, a long-distance relationship doesn’t have to feel like something you just get through until things change. Proper rituals can deepen communication, create anticipation, and make your time together feel more meaningful.
Ahead, you’ll find our favorite long-distance relationship ideas, from romantic surprises to cozy virtual rituals to the latest tech-friendly habits to help you stay connected no matter where you are.
Daily habits that help you get closer
My boyfriend and I have discovered some small habits that make distance easier. None of them are complicated, but they help you feel like you’re sharing the mundane parts of your life.
1. Send photos from the day. A simple photo taken from your morning walk, your favorite coffee shop, or your local farmers market can help make your partner feel included in your daily life, even if you’re in another city.
2. Keep a shared playlist. Start a playlist that you both add to over time. It becomes the soundtrack to your relationship and gives you something to listen to when you can’t see each other.
3. Before you say goodbye, plan your next visit. Before one visit ends, mark your next visit on your calendar. If you have something to look forward to, it will be easier to spend time apart.
romantic long distance relationship ideas
4. Plan a surprise visit. If your schedule allows, an unexpected reunion can be one of the most memorable ways to reunite.
5. Send something that brightens up the space. Flowers are classic, but your favorite candle or fresh bread from your favorite bakery can feel just as thoughtful.
6. Swap your signature scent. Wearing or spraying your partner’s favorite fragrance can be a surprisingly soothing reminder of their presence.
7. Add a note to your favorite book and send it. Mail your favorite novel, poetry collection, or essay book and highlight the passages you remember.
8. Write a handwritten letter. It’s really special to receive real mail instead of a bill (lol). Handwritten notes instantly feel more personal than text.
Relaxing ways to stay connected from a distance
9. Share your end-of-day check-in call. Instead of texting all day long, set aside some time in the evening to talk about your ups and downs.
10. Take a walk and talk. Make a phone call while the two of you are out for a walk. It feels like you’re exploring together.
11. We’ll send you a small package that says, “Thinking of you.” A favorite snack, a favorite book, or something that reminds you of them can make an ordinary week feel special.
12. Take a meditation or breathing class together. Apps like Headspace and Calm make it easy to share relaxing rituals from a distance.
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13. Cook the same meal together. Choose a recipe that both of you are interested in and cook it while video chatting.
14. Get delivery from your favorite restaurant. Ordering dinner for your partner who is far away is an easy way to show that you care.
15. Order the same coffee subscription. Signing up for the same subscription makes it easy to enjoy something together every month.
16. Take a virtual cooking class together. Many chefs are now offering online classes, making this a fun shared activity.
a thoughtful gesture that shows you care
17. Give them plants. Low-maintenance plants serve as living memories of your relationship.
18. Create a shared watchlist. Create an updated list of shows and movies you want to watch together so you always have something ready for your next virtual movie night.
19. Plan your next trip together, even if it’s hypothetical. Choose a destination, research hotels, and create a shared list of places you’d like to visit. Planning something together can keep you sharing a sense of the future.
20. Stock up your fridge before you leave. If you’re visiting, leaving some groceries behind is a charming and practical gesture.
Long-distance activities you can enjoy together
21. Take a virtual workout class together. From yoga to dance workouts, moving together (and apart) can be surprisingly fun.
22. Start a book club together. Choose one book each month and talk about it on your next video call.
23. Listen to the same podcast. Choose a podcast series and discuss the episodes.
24. Play online games together. Whether it’s chess, Mario Kart, or a puzzle game, a little friendly competition can lighten things up.
Technology-friendly long distance relationship ideas
25. Keep a shared notes app. Use it to write down ideas, future plans, or things you want to talk about later.
26. Send voice notes instead of text. Hearing your partner’s voice, even for a short time, can bring you closer together.
27. Start the habit of taking pictures every day. Each night, send one photo from that day. This is an easy way to stay connected to each other’s routines.
final thoughts
Long distance relationships aren’t always easy. There are so many moments when I miss dinner, when my apartment is quiet, when I wish I could reach across the couch instead of behind a screen. But distance is also a way to sharpen what’s important.
Living in different places makes connection a deliberate practice. Learn to communicate more clearly, plan your time together thoughtfully, and appreciate the everyday moments you take for granted.
My boyfriend and I are still counting down the days until our next flight between PDX and SFO. But in the meantime, these small rituals help us stay present in each other’s lives.
Because at the end of the day, a long-distance relationship isn’t about getting closer between you. We continue to choose each other no matter where we are.
This post was last updated on March 18, 2026 with new insights.
Source: Camille Styles – camillestyles.com
