They met at a Brooklyn theatre nearly 20 years ago – auditions, roles, sparks of friendship. Jonathan Greg had a fresh face New York Cityaudition for the work 6 degrees separation. Tom Felix was the director. The two quickly launched it: witty jokes, creative chemistry, and, yes, a bit of undeniable mutual charm.
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“He was so hot and wanted to keep him around,” the gay Felix is now laughing Greg, laughing straight at the Zoom window. Supporter.
But the friendship that followed grew beyond cheating and creative synergy, spanning urban apartments, career pivots, marriages, late-night texts, holidays, and barbecues. It became a family.
On Sunday, International Friendship Day, they don’t just celebrate nearly 20 years of bonds. They put it under the microphone. Their new podcast, There’s no homos between Jonathan and Tomweekly riffs on life, masculinity, weirdness, parenting Politicsand everything in between. I want to say, “two best friends, one straight, one gay person,” and “gasses each other as the world burns.”
Behind the jokes is something quieter and more binding. It’s a friendship that teaches listeners how vast masculinity is.
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I’m against it, but the same
Greg, 43, lives with his wife and two young children in the Queen. He currently works as operations director for the Spirits Portfolio. I’m thinking about bourbon, vodka, rum, and lady link. He’s magnetic, not an apology, but often two loud voices. He is also a popular social media influencer: Tiktok’s 127,000 followers and 140,000 Instagram, and count.
Greg grew up in the north Alabamain what he called a “protected and conservative” environment, shaped by church life and the teachings of the Southern Baptist. At the time, he thought his church was progressive. His pastor once refused to participate in boycotting the entire Disney sect over company perceptions. LGBTQ+Support. “I thought my church was a relatively progressive place,” he said.
Still, experience is with him. “Why do you cut something out in your life because they’re kind to a group of people?” he asked. When he first left Alabama for Nashville and then New York, distance revealed how isolated his upbringing was, and how much space would grow. “Exposure is an antidote to hatred and fear,” he said. “I’m not afraid to get to know people, to know people, that’s it.”
Felix, 46, is quiet and cautious. With a former theatrical director tv set A development executive, he currently works in Corporate Communications and lives near Astoria with his fiancee, Nakuan, kittens, fish and chips. He’s a rethinker.
Felix grew up in the working class Catholic Central household Connecticuthe says it took him a while to reconcile with being gay. By the third year of high school, he had come out to himself. By fourth grade he was quietly living a double life, trapped in school, where he was the prom king and the president of the class, but began exploring his sexuality through community theater. “I was ready to be gay,” he said. “I wasn’t ready to ruin everything else.”
He was waiting until College On his first night in New York, he sat in a diner with a group of fellow freshmen and came out to others. When someone asked if he was gay, he put down his grilled cheese and for the first time cried out loud, “Yes, I’m gay.” It took me a while to come out to my family and friends from my hometown. And he endured bullying as a child, untold to start the theatre again rather than playing sports, and is still memorable. “It was something I handled throughout high school,” he said.
Both men are strong “daddy vibes”, physically muscular, emotionally available, and undoubtedly safe in their own skin. They share bedrooms, wedding corridors and dance floors. And when they hit the right party, Greg removes his shirt beside Felix in a sea of sweaty, writhing men. “He’s coming with me to Lecto Party and Honey Dijon Party,” Felix says. “I don’t necessarily call them the circuits, but it definitely looks like a gay tech house party.”
Their rhythms may differ, but their friendship is seamless. Felix officiated at Greg’s wedding. When Felix and Nakan get married next year, Greg returns his favor.
“We had a really strange and exciting experience together,” Felix says. “And I think I have such a long history right now… I trust him completely.”
We have been asked whether the relationship has so far crossed into romantic and sexual spheres, both of which are military and candid. “Tom had the most convincing argument with the guy I’ve ever heard,” jokes Greg. “But I have a dedicated monogamous marriage. And I’m straight. Tom knows that. And he respects it.”
Felix, don’t miss the beat: “And I’m still doing it.”
Paint your nails and punch the Nazis
Their intimacy also shaped Greg’s public persona. Throughout the Trump era, he creates slogans, “paint your nails and punches the Nazis.” Now it’s on T-shirts, stickers and a lot of products.
This phrase was born from living experience. Bullying as a child, Greg bulged and leaned against Hypermask Linity as protection. Later, when his son asked him to paint his nails, Greg also painted him.
Tom Felix (left) and Jonathan Greg at the costume party.Courtesy by Jonathan Gregg & Tom Felix (Provided by)
“My wife and I have always wanted to beat gender norms,” he says. “When our son was born, we made a pink tank top on the front saying, ‘It’s a boy’, and “gender norms are for the weak.” ”
It wasn’t about the rebellion. It was about modeling freedom.
“Even if my son never draws his nails again,” says Greg.
He and Felix have made some of the show’s modelling stupid, serious, or somewhere in between.
Building friendships and shows while regaining “No homo”
Podcasts have been made for years. They were forever joking about it. But the 2024 election and the political darkness that followed finally gave them a push. “I was tired of screaming at my phone,” Felix says. “I wanted to use my voice for something more.”
So they hit records. Then they did it again. And again. The format is loose: weekly check-in, some current events, some personal revelation, and always atmosphere.
There are no homos It was released in late June. New episodes drop every Thursday. As of this week, six people have been airing, and the show has already found its footing. Last weekend, Felix was first recognized at The Cock, the legendary gay bar on Manhattan’s Lower East Side. “Are you a podcast guy?” A man named Dan from Albuquerque. New Mexicoasked.
“I’ve always got a cock,” Felix joked on the show.
Dan also conveyed Greg’s compliment. “If you flapping your lashes quickly enough, he thinks you might just float.”
The name sparked controversy before they pressed the record.
There are no homos Originally it was made as a reflexive disclaimer. This is a way to distance straight men from what they might be perceived as gay. This phrase exploded in hip-hop from the 1990s to the early 2000s. There, the artist preempted the rid laugh after using it to say something with domination, heterosexual or remote affection. It was defensive, uneasy, and often deeply homophobic.
Greg and Felix know that all. And they gave them a name show There are no homos Anyway.
“We wanted to hold the mirror to the absurdity of that,” Felix says. “The phrase itself is very rooted in anxiety, gender, direction, and being perceived, and we wanted to turn it over.”
“It’s the stupidest and most hilarious thing a straight man has come up with,” adds Greg. “And now we’re one straight, one gay, yeah, yeah, not homos, all homos. deal with that.”
The title is provocative by design. But it’s not a provocation of the sky. It’s about subversion about facing cultural discomfort with male intimacy. By regaining this phrase, they turn their original anxiety into their heads and replace it with something grounded, interesting and emotionally honest.
“We’re kidding,” Felix says. “But we are seriously dying about it too.”
Jonathan Greg (left) and Tom Felix.Courtesy by Jonathan Gregg & Tom Felix (Provided by)
In the sixth episode, Greg shared a message from the listener. He jokingly called it “No Homer Slash Bromo.” The straight man asked: “Do you think I’m attractive?” The friend said yes, but explained that since the man was married, he hadn’t said anything before.
“It really made him feel good,” Greg said. “And frankly, it’s always deep inside me. It’s the best service I can offer from this podcast.”
“There’s a trend of male loneliness in this country,” he added. “There’s no love from men. How they experience it, how they accept it, how they make it look. And I’m telling you, if you don’t just make gay friends and let them flirt with you, the problem of loneliness is less. That’s the best you’re trying to feel up to now.”
Gallup in May 2025 Opinion survey It was found that 25% of American men ages 15 to 34 reported feeling “more” of the lonely day before. In the United States, young men are much more lonely than both young women and older people. Experts link the crisis to years of cultural norms, discouraging boys from expressing vulnerability, often leaving them emotionally isolated.
“There are a few ways to make you feel a little better,” Felix added.
Greg didn’t miss the beat. “If you and your gay friends decide you want to go down that path, that’s totally cool too. And if you’re not there, they’ll flirt, take the compliments, take the gas, and maybe give you a really good blowjob if you want it.”
“I tried to grab his penis on my 30th birthday,” Felix admitted in him. advocate Interview. “That’s true, but I was a real bullying,” cried Greg. “So I can forgive that too.”
But was it not homo or was it homo?
“Yeah, I wasn’t gay,” Greg said. “It may have been after the fact. It may not have been gay after the fact.”
Greg and Felix are not trying to become icons. They’re just trying to be honest. Stop fearing each other to show what friendship looks like when a man stops fearing softness.
“If more straight men had gay best friends, the world would be a better place. Period.”
He’s not wrong. Happy International Friendship Day.
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