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As home prices rise and caregiving needs progress, many families are turning to multi-generational or “sandwich” living. In many cases, two or more adults, including grandparents and grandchildren, share a single household. This way of life can provide a sense of financial relief, emotional support and a deeper sense of connection. However, thoughtful planning is essential to working well. Here’s how you can arrange your home to accommodate multiple generations while maintaining privacy, comfort and harmony:

Before repositioning furniture or knocking on the wall, start by identifying who lives in the house and what their needs are. Using these conversations early will help you avoid misunderstanding and ensure that the space supports each person’s lifestyle.

Create a list of priorities.

• Privacy: Who needs a private bedroom, entrance or bathroom? Do teenagers want more privacy than younger children? Do adult children need work from home?
• Accessibility: Are there any physical limitations that need to be changed? Do older members need features like handrails, walk-in showers, lamps, and more?
• Shared space: Where do families gather? How do kitchens, meals and laundry spaces share? Does Garden support both playtime and fun?

Specifying a separate zone for each generation is key to avoiding tension. If possible, assign each family unit a unique bedroom and bathroom. To make it even more independent, consider creating a small living suite in the kitchen or separate entrance.

For homes with small areas, consider using furniture and partitions to create visual and functional separations. Folding screens, bookshelves, or sliding doors can divide the room without permanent construction.

Examples of private zones include a completed basement with bedrooms and living areas, a converted garage and attic, a second floor/downstairs living area, and a backyard accessory residence (ADU).

If an elderly family member is moving, it is important to make your home age-friendly. If someone in the house is experiencing mobility issues, it is worth consulting with an occupational therapist or contractor who specializes in universal design. Even small upgrades can make a huge difference in safety and comfort.

Accessibility changes may be included.

Grab the bar in the bathroom

Lever style door handle

Non-slip flooring

• Ramp or stairs

Walk-in tab or shower

• First floor bedroom and bath

Kitchens are often the most used and crowded spaces in multi-generational homes. If multiple people are cooking, consider increasing storage and adding a second fridge or another food preparation area. Double sinks, an oversized pantry, and ample seating can reduce competition and make things run smoothly.

Some families choose between two separate kitchens or main kitchens with small kitchens. Even the minifridges, microwaves and coffee makers in bedroom suites can add convenience and autonomy.

If you can’t add a bathroom, streamline your use by using it on a schedule or by assigning each person a designated shower or grooming time. Additional shelves and storage help to reduce clutter.

If possible, create a dual vanity sink or install pocket doors to allow for separate areas for toilets and showers. These small changes will allow multiple people to be ready immediately.

In the sense that you live under one roof, you need to hear everything that happens in the next room. Soundproof walls, ceilings or floors between private areas can enhance the experience for everyone. Thick lugs, acoustic panels and solid core doors are easy ways to reduce noise.

Privacy is important, but connections are important too. Specify areas where the whole family can gather, such as a large living room, dining table, or an outdoor patio. These spaces can nurture bonds, promote host celebrations and promote communication for generations.

Make sure these general areas are comfortable and versatile. Modular furniture, durable materials, and ample lighting will go a long way in creating a welcoming environment.

No matter how well your home is designed, living with a large family can be a challenge without open communication. We discuss early house rules, including chores, parenting roles, quiet time and financial expectations. Some families find it helpful to create a rotating chore chart or hold regular family meetings.

If renovations to your home are important, building permits or zoning approval may be required, particularly to add separate entrances or accessory units. It is also wise to obtain clear agreements about shared costs, homeownership and caregiving liability. Consider involving an attorney or financial advisor to protect your relationship and provide varying levels of care in the long run.

Multi-generational living can be a rewarding and cost-effective arrangement, providing opportunities for deeper family connections and shared responsibility. With thoughtful planning, honest conversation and a flexible approach to space design, your home can support all generations with comfort and dignity. Whether caters to an aging parent, an adult child, or a young family, deliberately setting up a home opens the way to a harmonious home.

Valerie M. Blake I’m a licensed associate broker in DC, Maryland and Virginia and RLAH @Properties. Call or text her on 202-246-8602, email her via dchomequest.com or follow her on Facebook therealst8ofafffairs.