Self Love Comes First

There are already a lot this year and we only have a month. Plus, the “Moon of Love” is here, adding pressure. But just because I don’t have Valentine’s Day this year doesn’t mean I don’t love anyone… after all, I exist! So can we talk a bit about developing narcissistic love?

Loving myself was one of my biggest fights in total transparency. I have always struggled with myself, my appearance, my dreams, and everything else under the sun.

I remember the first time I was called “fat.” I was in kindergarten and a boy a year older than me said I was too fat to play the games the rest of my kids were playing. Loving myself has been a struggle I’ve always dealt with since.

However, for the past three years, specifically, I have fallen in love with myself. If you need help doing the same thing, then narcissism will come first, so there are some hints from your own experience.

My top tips on developing self-love

First, put yourself first.

When I had no self-love, I realized that it was because I was too busy giving that love to others and there was no one left for me at the end of the day. I started to spend time with myself and make time to do what I wanted to do.

If I wanted to go see a movie that no one else wanted to see, I would go. I did it when I wanted to watch my favorite reality show closely. Even if it was just going for a walk, I took care of myself with the same care I was giving to others.

Celebrate all your victory.

The other day there was a quote that appeared in my Tiktok for you. The boy did that.

If something good happens, celebrate it whatever it is. Do you feel good? celebrate. Do you want to take a cute photo while having a drink with your friends? celebrate. Do you want to get a promotion? celebrate. It really doesn’t matter what the level of the event, it’s just celebrating.

Take pride in yourself.

When I felt that all the stress was piling up in the final moments of undergraduate, I realized that I wasn’t putting much effort into my appearance. This applies to my clothes, hair, makeup, everything.

It’s worth it to feel better about yourself as you take a few more minutes in the morning. I love wearing what I think is “full grams,” and when I don’t wear regular makeup, I find myself confident.

Do what you like.

If you like to do something, do it! I love traveling and often learn more about myself when I travel.

Treat yourself.

I treat myself frequently. It can be a bit overwhelming, especially in February when love is everywhere. If you’re calm and struggling with comparisons (as I often do), treat fun cocktails, coffee, sweet treats, bouquets of flowers, or whatever you want.

You deserve as much love as the next person, but loving yourself is where it begins. It can be easier than you say, but starting with the little things can make a huge difference in the way you love yourself.

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