Let’s talk about sexy feelings, especially in a world where we don’t celebrate plus-sized bodies. in Curvy fashionistaswe know that plus-size sexual confidence is more than what you look like. It’s a way of thinking, an atmosphere, and sometimes a complete reclamation.
So we’re excited to present this powerful guest article Dr. Carol Queenaward-winning sex specialist Good atmosphereauthor and proud member of our TCF Expert Network. As an expert in the world of sexuality and joy, she is here to remind us that our bodies deserve a celebration and that possessing your erotic self is a radical and enjoyable act of self-love.
When I set out to write a book about sexual confidence, Exhibitionism for the Shy: Show off, dress up, hot talkI wanted to quickly include interviews with people of different ages, sizes and lives. From straight and shy to incredibly brave, I wanted it all.
A particularly bold and twisty woman was on my radar: a beautiful blues singer Candy Cane. Like my other interviewees, she was going through the sex industry, professional exhibitionist, if you did, but I was equally interested in the career she built on the stage.
Of course, you don’t need to be erotically interested in showing off your bodyful body to take to a concert hall or diving bar. But if you’re going to bring your love of performance into the bed, you have to be comfortable. I wanted Candy and other interviewees to share their wisdom about exactly that.
So how do you go big and bold?
Baby steps. And you start where you are.
For plus-size women (and others), accepting your body can be a real challenge when much of the world tells you to hide, become smaller and smaller.
Even positive body movements don’t completely close this type of body embarrassment and start very early for some of us. Showing our beautiful self can be difficult because of the growing nerves that affect all attempts.
That’s why I encourage exhibitionism. That’s because it’s erotic sensibility we feel. Aiming for excitement and joy can help distract attention from what others think about how we look and express ourselves.
Showing it as erotic
Start your solo before you show off for others.
Enter the realm of exhibitionism into your fantasy. If you feel that is right, amplify that inner story by pleasing yourself. Erotic excitement, As you may have discoveredit can move your attention away from self-consciousness.
Even time alone is perfect for exploring the sexyness of solos. Dance in front of the mirror and slowly peel off your clothes or two, or other kinds of self-forgiving play. This is for you.
What to wear to boost your sexual confidence in plus size
You may not be ready Perfect clothing for your body It flaunts all the curves. it’s okay. But wear something sexy underneath!
This depends on your own definition of sexy, so if it’s not your vibe, don’t put pressure on girly sex kitten lingerie. Combat Boots and Boy Shorts can Be as sexy as you do.
If you’re used to cover-up and aren’t ready to change it in public, it’s fine. But can you make a small shift? Try wearing bold colors. Or, leaning against that constantly sexy tone, black with a pop of red. What’s important is what to wear I feel it Good for you.
Adjust to your own sexy sensibilities
Let me say this again. This is about you and it’s for you.
Do you say that’s not the way you grew up? Me too…and I have become an erotic performer and sexologist.
If you’re not far from this article, take this. It’s important what turns you on.
You may need to Explore and experiment To even know what it is. What a great homework assignment?
The person you are with
Many plus-sized people have discovered that some potential partners eroticize their bodies.
Such attention will help you get started I appreciate your own sexyness. But remember, you There’s no need to Rely on the approval of others. Some fetish partners may love your body more than they love you.
You are not sexy for someone else’s gaze. You are sexy for how you feel and how you feel My own that.
Find a playful, respectful partner (If you need a partner) Who cares? your The joy of themselves.
Your own desires and boundaries
You can decide what you want to do and Something you don’t.
Maybe it’s “still” and it’s completely fine. Explore in your own timeline. Respect where you are.
When you know you are piloting the ship, you will feel more confident and happy in your skin. Focus on how you feel physically, emotionally, and energetically.
When we give ourselves permission to accept ourselves, the body perceptions we were taught as children do not disappear, and it evolves.
That recognition can grow into something new, rooted in empowerment and joy. And the focus returns to where it should always be, in ourselves, in comfort, and in our joy.
Source: The Curvy Fashionista – thecurvyfashionista.com
