Why America Needs More Lover and Less Roommates
By Guy Blaise
In France we have: “About ne vit qu’unefois” – you only live once. But we also live with the belief that, like fine wine, love is intended to be tasted, grown and deeply shared.
When I moved to America, I realized something amazing. Once promised to be one of each other’s biggest adventures, the couple quietly became roommates. What’s worse, they lived like brothers and sisters. Ah Lala! They shared bills, housework, and perhaps Netflix passwords, but not passionate. The connection that once felt the electricity now felt like a polite handshake.
The problem isn’t that Americans don’t want intimacy. That means somewhere along the way, they replaced romance with routines. And everyday life is the enemy of desire.
From lovers to logistics managers
If there are too many American households, conversation revolves around grocery lists, children’s schedules, and what time your dog needs to walk. The bedroom is not a sanctuary for love, but a storage space for laundry.
In France, we protect the sanctity of intimacy. We understand that relationship health is measured by how efficiently the bill is paid and how well they live when they are together. We cheat – even in a long-term relationship. We kiss as it still matters. Touch without an agenda.
Desire is not luxury – it is a lifeline
Some may consider passion to be frivolous or unrealistic. It’s a great bonus if you have time. But I think it’s the glue that holds the marriage together. Without desire, resentment creeps up. Without romance, communication becomes a transaction.
Creating love is not just about physical pleasure. It’s really something to be seen and felt. It’s about saying without words “You’re still important to me.”
Three French Secrets to Rekindly Energe Your Lover’s Energy
- Shamelessly cheat with your partner.
Send playful text. Whisper something suggestive during dinner. Let them know that they are still viewing them as lovers, not as co-parents or co-tenants. - Protect your time for intimacy, just like meeting your boss.
In France, we don’t cancel romantic dinners for another errand. I’m canceling my business. - Returning the mystery to a relationship.
Surprise your partner. Wear something they’ve never seen you before. Plan your night without telling us what’s coming. Desire thrives in the unknown.
From roommates to lovers
If your marriage feels more like a business partnership than a romance, then it’s not too late. Start small. smile. It lingers when you hug it. Ask each other questions you’ve never asked in years.
Your partner didn’t fall in love with your roommate. They fell in love with the person who made them feel alive.
And the truth is that America simply doesn’t need more couples who coexist under one roof. You need a couple looking at each other beyond the dinner table and feeling the spark.
Author:
Guy Blaise is a French author I’ll make America a partner againa bold and heartfelt exploration of love, intimacy and emotional connection in modern American marriage. Find out more and book https://howtolovelikethefrench.com/mama.
Source: Spiritual Media Blog – www.spiritualmediablog.com
