Before I forget Valentine’s Day again.
When I reminded me that my algorithm was Valentine’s Day, I was thinking about writing this work in love. Anyway, I decided to move on. The bots were helpful to know that I was trying to hide my sentimentality. Links to articles like “The True Truth About Valentine’s Day” surpassed Trump’s Grotes Kelly reminders.
You may already know the story – there is no doubt about today’s standards. It combined cleansing rituals and infertility rituals, including religious and sexually symbolic elements. A naked young man was prepared for action and drew the woman’s name on the matchmaking lottery. The women were beaten with goats and dog skins they killed, hopefully making them fertile. Couples will team up to suit the festival period and switch partners if the experience is not satisfied.
The church has adjusted for excess. Our celebration began as the day of the Christian East Feast, founded by the Pope in the late 5th century. During the Middle Ages, romantic associations emerged through poets like Chaucer. There were several Valentines, all of whom were martyrs, one of which declared a saint with beheading (pictured above). He wrote his first “Valentine” greeting to the young girl he had fallen in love with as a tutor. perhaps Without knowing this, the church eventually rescued the love of the court and backhanded the later competition. The sacred hierarchy is good at disarming “pagan” rivals.
Once I looked down, romances other than marriage became normal. Marriage was a contract, no love was required. The love of the court was a brilliant event. The happiest Valentine was not his wife, but another woman, whether married or not. There was a catch. There wasn’t this time. . . Coupling. “Courtly Love” is usually not physically consumed and therefore is more intense on the nature of desire today. Passion had to be unfulfilled to be desirable.
Dennis de Lugemont traces the conflict between passion and marriage in his classics, Love in the Western world. Romantic love in Western culture usually requires some form of impossibility or destiny to reach its best expression. For example, consider a novel that suggests many things Madame Bovaly, Anna Karenina, and Great Gatsby. With Tolstoy, if Anna is simply satisfied with her marriage to Karenin, or if Levin finds fulfillment right away, who would want to hold back all the names of Russia?
Contrary to today’s Valentine’s hopeful thinking, lovers experience the deepest romance when they can’t achieve it, not in the way of social barriers, tragic timing, or death. Romantic frustration has become a transcendental result. Not owning what we want makes that desire purer and meaningful, and at least appealing. (The August voice of Medieval Times, Mystic Meister Eckhart sounds like a postmodern philosopher.
Whatever the Bible teaches or the command of morality, faithful marriage is a victory over history. The result is a lasting undercurrent of dissatisfaction in romantic life.
In previous generations, love was not just a personal experience, but a social obligation. Today we (mostly) marry for love. It’s usually a personal choice. This romantic ideal is attractive, but it caused a decline in the stability of the couple. Family safety is fragile. In contrast, contractual marriages were not as tragic as the counterparts who make today’s news.
Recognizing this history, Stephen Mitchell concluded that previous understandings of desire could be adopted. A well-known psychoanalyst and well-known marriage counselor, he would have agreed to Kierkegaard, where boredom explains many evils. He wasn’t too worried about preventing divorce or extramarital issues. Couples are far more passionate when they get married. It helps to lower predictions. What you don’t know about your partner can make them more attractive and sometimes mystical. Dispute resolution is less important than practicing more effective arguments. “Love is no longer dangerous, not because we can’t do it, but because we won’t allow it.” It’s no wonder we get bored.
Mitchell’s insights about passion and predictability extend beyond personal relationships to political life. Political sociologist Max Weber did. From the age of court love to ourselves, attitudes towards passion, marriage and romance reflect and shape our understanding of politics and leadership. Weber explained Charismatic As an innovative force that disrupts established order and everyday life. Charismatic authority represents a distinct style of leadership that is particularly appealing in politics and social movements.
We lament the worship of personality and abandon the baby in the bath. Not only the right thing, but the more interesting thing will be replaced unless integrity is desired. Repeat Billy Joel’s song, “The Only Good Die Young.”
Now the new president laughs and has a good time, reminding him of the festival before Valentine’s Day. The law was differently binding, and cruelty was merely a “joint.” The crowd settled for less.
Over time, passion became more civilized. Probably too civilized. True love is more dangerous and desirable. John Lewis often said, “I will accept good trouble, necessary troubles and help redeem the soul of America.”
A little late: After all, Happy Valentine’s Day.
Notes and reading
Valentine’s Day history – History.com Editor (updated February 4th, 2025). include How Cupid became a Valentine’s Day mascot.
Love in the Western world – Dennis de Lugemont (1983). “Literature high adventures were pursued with shaking energy and guarantees.” – John Update.
Can love be the last time? Over time the fate of romance -Stephen A. Mitchell (2002). Mitchell jumps by shaking readers in a way that reflects the psychological imbalances at the heart of the mind Continued Romantic love.
Life to Death: The Psychoanalytic Implications of History Introducing by Christopher Rush – Norman O. Brown (1959). Classical scholar and social philosopher Brown argues that The future of humanity depends on the resurrection of the body. Susan Sontag wrote Brown’s book, “The first major attempt to develop an intrinsic eschatology since Nietzsche. It cannot be shocked if taken personally.”
The sacred layer. . . A secular rival. – Due to historical uncertainty rather than morality, the church revised the universal calendar in 1969, removing several east feast days, including St. Valentine’s Day. The church can still celebrate his east feast day.
Meister Eckhart – “Only the hand that erases can write the truth.” – An epigraph to markings by former UN Secretary-General Doug Hamars Skjold.
Love and politics -Eszter Kováts, Editor, (Friedrich-Ebert-Stiftung Budapest, 2015-Online). An edited lecture that includes court love and current concepts of domination, initiative, subordinate, dependence and partnership. Kováts is a researcher at the Institute of Political Science at the University of Vienna. Her field of study: Anti-gender politics, right, right, left left.
Charismatic – Weber discusses “charisma” the most extensively. Economy and Society (2019), Chapter 3, “Types of Rules.”
Victorian “Vinegar” Valentine’s Day can be despicable and hostile – Freelance writer Crystal Ponty was published at the Good venue. Find her at @historiumu. – history.com (February 10, 2020). Sample: “My Valentine’s Day/’Skidoo lemon I give you and bid on you, because I love another person. There’s no chance for you. ”
Tip Off #181-Are you doing enough?
Approx. 2 + 2 = 5
Source: 2 + 2 = 5 – williamgreen.substack.com
