At the heart of realized femininity is power: raw, untouched, natural power. It is the power that creates cycles of creation and destruction, cultivation and consumption, and creation. It’s breathtaking beauty and wisdom that illuminates your path. It’s a truth that cuts you to the bone, and love is so intense that it swallows you whole. It’s both awe-inspiring and terrifying.
The ability to be vulnerable, open, and surrender becomes a raw source of creativity in that moment. The power to do anything, to be anything, to elevate oneself from an average consumer or bypasser to an active participant in creation. Create, influence, reinvent yourself, and reinvent others wherever you want. This is the power that women can touch.
But we have created a world that both covets and fears this power. We are hungry for it because it is the essence of life itself. We avoid it because it is potentially destructive, demanding, unapologetic, unabashed, and testing. It wants us to prove your worth, demands our full attention, our full presence, our weakness, our surrender. It asks us to deeply feel a world so afraid of death, loss of control, and surrender.
We covet it and at the same time devalue it. I want it because I need it. We devalue this power because it urges us to be vulnerable and surrender, and this power works with mastery of control to subjugate, contain, and command power. This is because, after too long of interdependence, they go in the wrong direction and end up with unbalanced submissive domination. we are very afraid of it. We want to be self-contained, independent, and in control.
The trap of interdependence
Some people have a balance of feminine and masculine polarities within themselves. Some blend more masculine elements. Some are at the far end of the spectrum, embodying the more primitive raw archetypes of masculinity and femininity, never quite reaching the 100 mark, but close to the edge. It is a spectrum, there is no wrong or right, it is just what it is. And whether you know who you are and whether you are satisfied with your nature. But within that spectrum, there is one group that receives the most attention, yet is the most misunderstood and mistreated. If you are reading this, you may already be leaning toward the incarnation of the Goddess, the deepest part of the feminine. So what happens to those who came here leaning more towards the feminine? What about people who are creative, vulnerable, open, yet raw, directionless, uninhibited, fiery, explosive, forces of nature who embody aspects of the Mother? ?
We are both the hot commodity and the most exploited. Because it is in our nature to need others who are the opposite of ourselves. We very much need to work with people who have a more masculine control and directional energy, which makes us both powerful and vulnerable and dependent. Very often they impose it on us and trap us with it. They claim it as their own without proper recognition, demand it, and at the same time devalue us in order to support themselves.
Our differences in strength have turned into weakness. Our ability to feel is seen as a weakness. Our vulnerability is both desired and degraded. Our loving control freaks very much like to be needed, but when we do, they very often take advantage of our need to attack us. . They only become impenetrable, cold, manipulative and controlling, preying on our needs and desires. They abuse the power we have given them as a gift and use it to subjugate us rather than respect or care for us. Because the world has taught us how to abuse, misuse, and corrupt women’s power, and use it to engage with ourselves rather than to empower each other, we all We are mired in misunderstandings.
myth of weakness
The environment in which we live is a deep trap for femininity as it is, but for those who do not have a solid foundation of material and emotional stability to begin with, the bondage due to the mismatch with the expectations of one’s own nature is exponential. will increase to
A woman’s energy comes and goes, toil, to work long hours, to deny herself pleasure beyond her basic instincts, to make decisions throughout the day, to choose how she engages. It doesn’t work by compartmentalizing emotions. You don’t want any of that, but still, those are exactly the skills you need to survive.
Inequality and social stratification are realities for everyone, but for those in a more masculine mode of operation, mastering their environment and constructing themselves through their actions, because this system is set up for them. Things are much more likely to change. It’s easier to detach from emotions and do what needs to be done.
Detachment from emotion comes at a price for everyone, but the cost is never higher than for those who are deeply feminine and emotional. This is because by moving away from emotions in order to survive, people become embarrassed by the recipients of power. own. Feeling itself consumes energy. We don’t consider it a job, but it is a job, just something that produces results internally rather than in the outside world. Emotions are largely unpaid, unnoticed, and unappreciated labor. It gives you the power to know, but it also makes you vulnerable. The more vulnerable you are, the more you feel it, and the more you bloom in a vessel of love and compassion, equipped with the tools and abilities to support you both financially and materially.
What if you don’t have a sturdy container? What if you grew up in poverty, chaos, and family breakdown? What if you didn’t have a father or mother to teach you self-worth and values? And if you operate in a feminine power mode? , your self-esteem becomes your power mode. And now the world has it on your head.
Why do you have no self-esteem?
Where is your self-esteem?
Why didn’t you have a loving family or a loving father? As if it’s your fault.
Why are you so poor?
Why ask for validation you never received?
What am I doing wrong?
Why can’t we pick ourselves up and push ourselves?
…I need someone who is confident, sane, no mom and dad issues, has done all the work/has no trauma/comes from a good family/hasn’t really suffered, but… He is someone who is not affected by suffering. This item is completely undamaged and undamaged. Someone who is confident in themselves, who doesn’t need my reassurance or approval, who is confident and knows their worth…
If you are unlucky enough to be born as an effeminate woman in the wrong family with little capacity for self-esteem, the world will not forgive you. In fact, they will be treated worse than criminals. The world is intent on degrading you, abusing you, taking your love, your beauty, your power, everything you have to offer, and giving little in return.
Source: BLOG-Ashira Tantra – www.ashiratantra.com
