A conversation with Dr. Alana Kaivalya, author of The Way of the Satisfied Woman: Reclaiming Feminine Power
Dr. Alana Kaivalya, Best-selling author, spiritual teacher, and expert on mythology, spirituality, and psychology. Her global network has over 30,000 members and she spiritual leadership podcastShe holds a PhD in mythological studies with an emphasis in depth psychology from Pacifica Graduate School and is a former director of the Carl Jung Foundation. She lives in Southern California. For more information, www.thesatisfiedwomen.com
What does it mean to be feminine?
Although there is no one definition of a feminine woman, we know her for her ability to embody and express the best qualities of femininity with confidence, wildness, and freedom. Whatever she’s doing, whether it’s changing the oil or baking cookies, she does it in a way that taps into her intuition, honors her emotions, and taps into her unbridled creativity.
The feminine female body expresses the cyclical rhythm of life itself, making us comfortable with constant change and responsible for speaking up about what needs to change in our lives. Feminine women love opportunities to collaborate, express beauty and sensuality, and enhance the pleasure of themselves and those around them. A satisfied woman is one who fully embodies her femininity, leans into her natural polarity, asks the world to value her femininity, and asserts her rightful place wherever she wishes.
How do you define satisfaction for modern women?
Satisfaction is defined as the pleasure derived from the fulfillment of a person’s desires and needs. For too long, women have focused on meeting the needs of others, let alone aiming for success based on ideals (continuation)
Of patriarchal culture! Neither allows women to develop on their own terms or fulfill their specific needs and desires.
Now is the time for women to be fulfilled. At every level and on our own terms.
Magical things happen when women follow their needs and desires. Women by nature work in a more collaborative and communal manner. In other words, when women do what it takes to feel satisfied, those around them benefit too.
How does being a satisfied woman differ from previous notions of female equality?
Satisfied women transcended previous notions of equality. Because all previous concepts were defined by men as a result of patriarchy. We have been trained to want what men want, to succeed on men’s terms, to bend ourselves to what men think we should be. These terms are not designed with women in mind and do not take into account their own unique needs and desires.
Traditionally, the idea of ​​equality meant that women strived to achieve men’s goals. Rather, women are better off striving for contentment, the pleasure that comes from fulfilling desires and needs. Women build their lives based on their dreams, desires, and conditions, as they cater to their own wishes and needs.
What is the difference between women’s satisfaction and men’s success?
The masculine (and patriarchal) definition of success means there are winners and losers. It is a hierarchical, unilateral, single goal-focused pursuit. And what happens once that goal is achieved? Often goals simply change or a new definition of success is created.
Alternatively, the pursuit of success for women means that there is a cooperative and collective effort to continually strive to realize wishes and needs. Women strive for satisfaction and do their best to benefit those around them as well. This means that everyone will be uplifted by the satisfaction of the woman.
How has patriarchy shaped what women are expected to do, be, and have today?
Patriarchy is designed to center men’s needs and elevate their ideals, while at the same time suppressing women’s needs and lowering their ideals. Women are taught early on that the traits of femininity are not only less desirable, but potentially dangerous. Qualities such as intuition and emotion are less preferred than masculine qualities such as logic and reason.
When masculinity and masculinity are seen as more valuable, everything will be seen in relation to it. Rather than seeing women based on their own standards, their own values, and their legitimate needs, women are often asked what they can offer a man, what a man can do, and what a man can do based on his own masculine qualities and It is seen in how you can contribute to enhancing your ideals. .
What is the most important thing for a woman to be satisfied?
While each woman decides for herself what satisfies her the most (and can change them as much as she likes!), achieving her satisfaction is rooted in four keys: .
- Safety: Be yourself without hurting your mind or body.
- safety: To know what our needs are offered
- trust: in ourselves, our circumstances, and those around us.
- Cherish: Our emotions and intuition are respected by the masculine.
The way a woman feels safe, secure, trusted, and valued may vary from person to person, but as long as she feels these four keys in her life, she will be well on her way to building a fulfilling life. We have the necessary foundation.
What is the difference between masculinity and femininity?
Most simply, the feminine values ​​emotion and intuition, while the masculine values ​​logic and reason. Both of these are psychological energies that all humans have, but as individuals we lean primarily toward one or the other. They are each essential energies, and when we are free to express our primary polarity, we feel energized and authentic.
In addition to intuition and emotions, femininity also likes to express attributes such as creativity, joy, collaboration, nourishment, communication, wildness, and spontaneity. Masculinity thrives in clear decision-making, protection, provision, nurturing, guidance, and guidance. It is easy to see how each of these polarities is extremely valuable, especially in conjunction with the other polarities in a dynamic and reciprocal manner.
Does something feminine always need a masculine counterpart?
absolutely. In fact, it is the nature of the universe! Masculinity and femininity are natural and complement each other. We see it all in life and in the world around us. This duality is inherent in everything in our world. It even exists within our own minds.
All human beings have both masculine and feminine polarities within themselves, and one or the other can be expressed at any time for valid reasons. But most of the time, we feel energized and authentic when we can freely express our primary polarity.
How do feminine women nourish and recharge themselves? 
Women often feel exhausted, overworked, overwhelmed, and burnt out. When this happens, it’s a sure sign that we’re neglecting our feminine needs and perhaps wearing too much of a mask of masculinity. Connecting to our femininity energizes us. Think of it like tending a well. Wells are supplied with groundwater, but also require external maintenance to ensure the structure is supported. We embrace our femininity by engaging in creative activities, interacting with fellow women, tapping into our intuition, fully feeling our emotions, and doing things that bring us joy. You can fill your well through anything that connects you. But we can also receive help from others by making sure we have someone to protect us, give us what we need, and value our emotions and intuition.
The path of a satisfied woman: Reclaiming feminine power
Written by Dr. Alanna Kaivaliya
Women’s Interest / Personal Growth • $19.95
Trade paperback • 232 pages • 5.5 x 8.5 • Publication date: November 26, 2024
ISBN: 978-1-60868-938-5 • Also available as e-book
Source: Spiritual Media Blog – www.spiritualmediablog.com
