Gigi’s case, such a strange romance story Red, White, Royal Blue, Achilles’s Song, Aristotle and Dante discover the secrets of the universeand Evelyn Hugo’s seven husbands It encouraged her to explore intimacy with different people, regardless of her gender.
“I went out and asked people on the date, spoke to people to find my people, and put myself in a situation where I could find the love of my life.” The 26-year-old Toronto trader thinks the genre has expanded her internal beliefs about love. “The conversations about beautiful prose, romance, and love in these books influenced the way I spoke to my partner, and allowed me to approach dating and even explore the concept of soulmates.”
Tools for connection and communication
The interaction of certain plotlines and characters in romance novels can provide a great template for performing any type of fantasy. This is a great way to connect with your partner.
According to Dr. O’Reilly, “Some people feel that using the stories, scenarios and characters in these books can be opened up about desires, people they like, boundaries, curiosity, etc.” To get started, she recommends that couples underline their passages and read together as a source of inspiration or as a way to start meaningful conversations about fantasies.
Aura, a doctoral candidate in New York, communicated with her partner using conversations she read in a particular novel. “When you read such a novel fully, you get a sense of how to say what you want,” she says. She uses literature as a tool to shrug the shame and embarrassment that has been instilled by society when it comes to expressing love and desire. “Now when I need to say I love you, I’ll say it straight,” she adds.
Outside of romantic relationships, Pooja has discovered that romance novels can help build a sense of empathy. “It taught me that my life experiences relate to people, even if I had nothing in common with them.”
The 27-year-old NYC marketer has revealed some of her favorite books. Nora erases the script and Zoya Factor, She was exposed to stories about romantic love as well as other important interpersonal dynamics.
Source: Allure – www.allure.com
